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How to Prepare for Adoption 

How to Prepare for Adoption 

Every prospective parent has to undergo a pre-adoption evaluation known as ‘home study’, before they can be approved for adoption. A home study operates as a record that lists aspects of your life such as your health and financial information, family history, parenting plan and personal background. It also consists of undergoing a series of interviews, a psychological test and home visits from a social worker. Naturally, prospective parents view the home study process as being nerve racking. Fortunately, we compiled a list of tips to consider to ensure that you can prepare adequately for adoption.

1) Prepare Your Home 

During your home study, a social worker will evaluate your residence to determine if it’s a safe environment for a child to live in. Therefore, most experts suggest that prospective parents should declutter and clean their homes. In fact, consider the possibility of hiring a professional cleaning contractor such as a maid. Social workers will go through each room, but they usually spend less than 10 minutes looking at the safety features of each room. Additionally, ensure that: 

  • Swimming pools are fenced and covered.
  • Weapons are stored in a locked gun safety box.
  • Smoke alarms and carbon monoxide alarms are in the main living areas of the building.
  • Use short window drape cords.
  • Household cleaners and pesticide should be stored in cupboards with child proof locks.

2) Treat Your Social Worker Like A Friend 

One of the things that can help to alleviate the stresses that are associated with the pre-adoption evaluation process is to think of the social worker as a guest, as opposed to an authority figure. Meaning, conversations should have a friendly tone and similarly to a guest, you should offer them tea or coffee. The point of doing this, isn’t to gain favors per se, but to make them feel comfortable. After all, the point of a pre-adoption evaluation is to determine if you can provide a safe and comfortable environment for the child. 

adoption3) Prepare For Your Interviews 

To a certain extent, your interview is akin to a secondary psychological test. Your assigned social worker will conduct an interview to evaluate your intentions, your history and suitability. Some of the general topics you’ll have to discuss include: 

  • Finances
  • Health history
  • Reason as to why you want to adopt
  • Relationship/Marriage history
  • Stress management techniques
  • How you plan to discipline a child

It helps to become aware of the topics you’ll be discussing so that you can provide an accurate, well thought out answer.

4) Gather Necessary Documents Beforehand

The last thing you should do is to rush through the paperwork you’ll be given. This can be tempting as you’ll be given an abundance of paperwork to fill out, as well as to submit multiple documents. But, by becoming aware of the type of paperwork you’ll be filing out, you can get the necessary documents together to expedite the process of filling them out. To prepare for adoption, some of the type of paperwork you’ll be completing includes: 

  • Personal references
  • Employer references
  • Financial statements
  • Birth certificate
  • Marriage license
  • Adoption education requirements
  • Background checks
  • Health statements

 

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Adoption And Young Families

Adoption And Young Families

When adopting a child, it will be no surprise that they may start asking you questions about their adoption. Many parents are aware of how important it is to talk to their adopted child about how and why they embrace them. Adoption and young families is something that is more common than we think. Talking with children about adoption should always be done carefully but with love and understanding.

You and your adopted child can always try to bond when these uncertain questions come about. Get advice from assistance before you are ready to talk to your child about their adoption. You will want to make sure that your child understands this process and what it means to you as a family that they are now part of your lives.

Any conversation you have about your child’s adoption should be encouraging and an experience for your family to gain a loving relationship for years.

Give Your Child A Welcomed Feel Right From The Start

A bond to have your child being part of the family with an open discussion should start on your first day home. Parents who adopt their children should be honest about why they are now in your life.

Have a normal conversation about their adoption. It will help discover that your child has a new life that they never thought would be imaginable due to circumstances they never knew.

Be Sure That You Are Truthful About Your Story

Children will be curious about where they came from and figure out what happened to their birth parents. Talking with children about adoption should always be truthful, but never take their questions to heart. Give your child the courtesy to answer any questions they want to know, but never lie or change the subject to make yourself feel more significant.

Never be private if you feel you will end up hurting your adopted child. Being open and truthful about your child’s adoption will help them understand who they are and never feel ashamed about what they may never know in the first place. As your child gets older, he or she can discover things about their birth parents and may become angry with you for not telling them what they should have known years earlier.

adoption and young familiesShow How Happy You Are To Your Child That They Are Loved

Not all children are proud of being adopted. They can feel neglected by their birth parents or bullied in school. When you tell them about their adoption, show how happy you are that they are part of your life. They need to feel loved, but make sure your child understands how unique the entire process was when you wanted to adopt them since family and love are valuable gifts.

Adoption Is A Chosen Treasure!!

 

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